MS with Matt Knags

In this episode of the Day In The Life series, host Taylor Dorward sits down with Matt Knags, a father, runner, and MS advocate, who shares his journey living with relapsing-remitting MS. Matt opens up about the joys of staying active, the challenges of uncertainty, and the power of community. Join us as we explore resilience, positivity, and raising awareness for MS.

Resources:

1. Facebook group - Running with MS:

 https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17Ym6NwT2Z/

2.  Page promoting our MS Runs Ireland Guinness World Record attempt:

 www.msrunsireland.com

Transcript

Matt 0:00
I decided to focus on what I can do and what I can control. For me, that takes my brain away from even the conversation around being differently abled because, sure, there are days where I can't walk across a room without assistance. It's still always in the back of my mind that that can pop up at any time. But on any given day, I am much more focused on what I can do and what I can control.

Taylor 0:36
Welcome to the Accessible Community Podcast, where we explore disability, aging, and accessibility through lived experiences. Join us to deepen your understanding in these areas. For show notes, visit accessiblecommunity.org/podcasts. Be accessible and be inclusive.

This is the month of March, and I'm really excited to be talking about MS because March is MS Awareness Month. This is going to be my second interview on MS, and if you haven't seen the first one, I highly recommend you check it out.

Before I turn it over to my next guest, a quick introduction about myself. I'm your host for this series, Taylor Dorward, and I'm a cortically blind individual. I'm a Caucasian male with short brown hair, blue eyes, and a short brown beard. Today, I'm wearing a dark red undershirt with a cream-colored flannel layered over top.

That’s it about me, so I’ll turn it over to my next guest, Matthew, and let him introduce himself.

Matt 2:11
Happy to be here, Taylor. Thanks for inviting me. My name is Matt Nags, and I was diagnosed with MS at the age of 35. I've been living with MS for six years now, at least knowingly. Obviously, I had it before diagnosis as well.

I'm a father of three, I am married, I have a work-from-home job, thankfully, and I'm an avid runner, which actually became much more of a thing for me after being diagnosed with MS.

Taylor 2:53
Interesting. I'd certainly love to hear more about that at some point during this conversation.

You told us a good bit about yourself, and now we know you have MS, but as I'm sure you're aware, there are varying types of MS, and they come on in different ways. Would you be able to describe your specific form of MS to us?

Matt 3:17
What I have is the most common form, called relapsing-remitting MS. What that means is that most of the time, you go through periods of relatively inactive disease, meaning your nervous system is not actively being attacked by your immune system, which we might call an MS attack or flare.

You go back to whatever your baseline is during a remission period, and those remission periods can be short, like a month or so, or quite long. Many people will go years without what's called a relapse or MS attack.

In my case, I have not had an official relapse since I was first diagnosed over six years ago. That does not mean I don't experience symptoms of MS. MS is a disease where you have nervous system damage. In my case, I have lesions on my spinal cord and lesions in my brain. The damage is already done.

There’s encouraging research on ways that damage can be repaired, but that hasn’t really come to fruition yet at scale for people with MS.

What that means is the damage I already have can still impact me day to day. Those impacts are often triggered by inflammation within my body, which can happen from stress, poor eating, or overexertion physically.

I often experience dizziness, imbalance, or vertigo. I experience sensitivity to noises, and it’s not always about volume. Sometimes specific pitches or tones trigger a physical response in my body where it becomes very uncomfortable and painful to hear certain sounds.

I also get blurred vision. Occasionally, I have spasms where my fingers vibrate or I have uncontrolled muscle movements. I experience difficulty finding words at times, which hopefully we won’t experience too much during this interview. That’s often called cognitive fog, where processing becomes more difficult.

So, in my case, there’s a wide range of symptoms. Thankfully, they’re not so intrusive that they prevent me from doing the things I want to do.

While I experience symptoms almost daily, they’re usually at a level where I can almost ignore them. The only times I really can’t are when they become much more intense, which often happens during periods of high stress, illness, or, as we like to say, MS just wants to do what it’s going to do.

For the most part, I’m able to manage without having to adapt too much day to day.

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Matt 0:00
 I decided to focus on what I can do and what I can control. For me, that takes my brain away from even the conversation around being differently abled because, sure, there are days where I can't walk across a room without assistance. It's still always in the back of my mind that that can pop up at any time. But on any given day, I am much more focused on what I can do and what I can control.

Taylor 0:36
 Welcome to the Accessible Community Podcast, where we explore disability, aging, and accessibility through lived experiences. Join us to deepen your understanding in these areas. For show notes, visit accessiblecommunity.org/podcasts. Be accessible and be inclusive.

This is the month of March, and I'm really excited to be talking about MS because March is MS Awareness Month. This is going to be my second interview on MS, and if you haven't seen the first one, I highly recommend you check it out.

Before I turn it over to my next guest, a quick introduction about myself. I'm your host for this series, Taylor Dorward, and I'm a cortically blind individual. I'm a Caucasian male with short brown hair, blue eyes, and a short brown beard. Today, I'm wearing a dark red undershirt with a cream-colored flannel layered over top.

That’s it about me, so I’ll turn it over to my next guest, Matthew, and let him introduce himself.

Matt 2:11
 Happy to be here, Taylor. Thanks for inviting me. My name is Matt Nags, and I was diagnosed with MS at the age of 35. I've been living with MS for six years now, at least knowingly. Obviously, I had it before diagnosis as well.

I'm a father of three, married, and thankfully have a work-from-home job. I'm also an avid runner, which actually became much more of a thing for me after being diagnosed with MS.

Taylor 2:53
 Interesting. I’d certainly love to hear more about that at some point during this conversation.

You told us a good bit about yourself, and now we know you have MS. But as I’m sure you’re aware, there are varying types of MS, and they come on in different ways. Would you be able to describe your specific form of MS to us?

Matt 3:17
 What I have is the most common form, called relapsing-remitting MS. What that means is that most of the time, you go through periods of relatively inactive disease, meaning your nervous system is not actively being attacked by your immune system, which we might call an MS attack or flare.

You go back to whatever your baseline is during a remission period, and those remission periods can be short, like a month or so, or quite long. Many people go years without what’s called a relapse or MS attack.

In my case, I have not had an official relapse since I was first diagnosed over six years ago. That does not mean I don't experience symptoms of MS. MS is a disease where you have nervous system damage. In my case, I have lesions on my spinal cord and lesions in my brain. The damage is already done.

There’s encouraging research on ways that damage can be repaired, but that hasn’t really come to fruition yet at scale for people with MS.

What that means is the damage I already have can still impact me day to day. Those impacts are often triggered by inflammation within my body, which can happen from stress, poor eating, or physical overexertion.

I often experience dizziness, imbalance, or vertigo. I experience sensitivity to noises, and it’s not always about volume. Sometimes specific pitches or tones trigger a physical response in my body where it becomes very uncomfortable and painful to hear certain sounds.

I also get blurred vision. Occasionally, I have spasms where my fingers vibrate or I have uncontrolled muscle movements. I experience difficulty finding words at times, which hopefully we won’t experience too much during this interview. That’s often called cognitive fog, where processing becomes more difficult.

So, in my case, there’s a wide range of symptoms. Thankfully, they’re not so intrusive that they prevent me from doing the things I want to do.

While I experience symptoms almost daily, they’re usually at a level where I can almost ignore them. The only times I really can’t are when they become much more intense, which often happens during periods of high stress, illness, or, as we like to say, MS just wants to do what it’s going to do.

For the most part, I’m able to manage without having to adapt too much day to day.

Taylor 6:59
 Awesome. That’s really valuable insight, so thank you for sharing that.

I know we’re going to focus a lot on MS, but I’m sure some listeners would also like to learn more about you. What do you do for work, and what are some of your hobbies? You mentioned running, and I saw on LinkedIn you have something pretty exciting coming up, so share a little more about yourself.

Matt 7:27
 Sure. Today I work for a software company called Quest Software. I'm on the pre-sales side doing value engineering. That means I get involved in big, exciting opportunities where I’m across the table from C-suite executives explaining the value they can expect from our product. That’s pretty fun and exciting for me.

Outside of that, I love to cook. I’m an avid karaoke artist. I’m definitely the guy who takes karaoke way too seriously and treats it like my personal American Idol audition every time I go.

And, as you mentioned, I’m also a big runner. Right now, my training plan has me running five days a week, between 60 and 70 miles per week.

That’s because my friend and I, who also has MS, are preparing for a Guinness World Record attempt this June for the fastest crossing of Ireland on foot by a team with MS.

Both of us use running as part of our treatment. We say movement is medicine. Studies have shown that staying physically active is one of the best ways to fight disease progression, so we’ve really taken that to the next level and decided to run 350 miles across an entire country while raising awareness and money for MS charities.

Taylor 9:50
 Awesome. That’s really cool. I’m definitely going to stay updated on that through LinkedIn.

I share some similarities there. I also love karaoke. Since I work remotely, I spend most of my day singing at my desk if I’m not on a call like this.

As a cortically blind individual, it can be difficult to read along with karaoke lyrics, especially in public, so I usually choose songs I already know well. My go-to has always been “Fly Me to the Moon” by Frank Sinatra.

Matt 10:37
 That’s a good one.

Taylor 10:39
 Yeah. I love songs with really emotional lyrics because singing is therapeutic for me. What about you?

Matt 10:49
 When I say I take karaoke seriously, this will probably paint the picture. Usually when someone asks me that question, I hand them my phone to show them my karaoke playlist.

Not only do I have a primary list, but I also have a secondary list where I’m curating songs until they’re ready for prime time.

Your Frank Sinatra pick reminded me that I also have one on my list: “Strangers in the Night.” That’s one of my all-time favorite Sinatra songs.

I tend to live mostly in the 80s, 90s, and 2000s rock, pop, and pop-rock genres.

Taylor 11:39
 Nice. I love singing some 90s and 2000s rock too, like Matchbox Twenty and Blink-182.

Matt 11:48
 Yep. Nice.

Taylor 11:50
 I also have a playlist on my phone literally called “Singing,” where I keep all the songs I love to sing. I totally get that.

So, you’ve told us a little about your work and personal life. Let’s shift back toward the MS side a bit more.

Are you familiar with person-first versus identity-first language?

Matt 12:18
 No, not really. I can probably infer what it means, but why don’t you explain it so I don’t make the wrong assumptions?

Taylor 12:28
 Absolutely. In its simplest form, person-first language puts the person before the disability. For example, “person with blindness” versus “blind person.” Some disabilities sound more natural one way or the other.

Would you prefer “disabled person” or “person with a disability?”

Matt 13:06
 Honestly, it’s not something I think about very often, and I’m not really offended either way.

I tend to be very open about my MS, mostly for awareness purposes. If someone uses a certain label, I generally assume it’s not malicious but simply that they may not know the preferred way to talk about it.

I remember shortly after my diagnosis, someone asked me, “Now that you’re disabled, are you thinking about doing things differently career-wise?” And I remember thinking, “Wait a minute. Am I disabled? I’m not really sure.”

Having a diagnosis doesn’t necessarily mean I’m disabled. I’m sure there’s an official definition somewhere, but personally, I focus more on what helps my own well-being.

For me, that means focusing on the positive.

Immediately after diagnosis, my brain naturally went to the worst possible place. I imagined losing all mobility, ending up in a wheelchair, losing control of my body entirely.

Those outcomes are possible with MS, but they aren’t guaranteed.

After working with a therapist and getting through that initial depression around diagnosis and uncertainty, I decided to focus on what I can do and what I can control.

So, for me, that takes my brain away from even the conversation around being differently abled because, yes, there are days where I can’t walk across a room without assistance. That still happens occasionally. But on any given day, I’m much more focused on what I can do and what I can control.

Taylor 16:24
 Yeah, absolutely. And don’t worry about being long-winded. We’re here to hear your perspective, and I really appreciate you sharing it.

So, you were describing the diagnosis process and how it made you feel. I’m curious, when those MS attacks or flares happen, are the cues always the same, or can they vary? What are the signs that let you know you need to slow down a bit?

Matt 16:58
 They definitely vary. There are trends I can identify looking back, though.

Stress is a big one. Illness is another. Anytime my immune system becomes more active, my symptoms tend to increase.

But I also want to emphasize that people with MS can’t necessarily control the disease course. My neurologist explained it well. He said he could look at two patients with identical damage to their nervous systems, and one might be completely disabled while the other lives a highly active lifestyle.

They might both be doing all the “right” things: exercising, eating well, reducing stress. But their outcomes can still be very different.

So I focus on what I can control.

There’s strong evidence that smoking worsens MS progression, so thankfully I’ve never smoked. Eating whole foods helps. Exercise helps. Even maintaining a positive outlook seems to help.

My neurologist actually told me that, while there isn’t hard science proving it, in his experience patients with a positive mindset tend to do better.

For me, that means I’ll do everything within my control, even though I can’t guarantee the outcome.

Taylor 21:33
 That’s a fantastic outlook.

I’m sure there are days that are harder than others. When symptoms are really hitting you hard, what coping strategies help you stay positive?

Matt 22:03
 A few months ago, I went through about six to eight weeks where I periodically couldn’t walk without assistance. My wife literally had to help support my body weight while I shuffled across rooms.

In those moments, it’s honestly frightening because your body isn’t doing what you want it to do.

Even though I know I have MS, there’s always this little voice wondering, “Is this something worse? Am I dying right now?”

So, in the hardest moments, it’s really just about breathing and getting through it.

Thankfully, my wife is incredible. She’ll sit with me and ask, “Do you want me to talk? Do you want distraction? Or do you just want me here?”

Outside of those peak moments, I rely a lot on positive self-talk and mantras. I tell myself things like, “You’ve got this. You can get through this.”

It’s the same mindset I use during long runs.

The symptoms themselves are already hard enough. If I pile negativity on top of them, the problem becomes even bigger.

That doesn’t mean positivity magically fixes chronic illness. It doesn’t. But mindset can absolutely change how you experience the challenge.

Taylor 27:23
 I think that’s a great perspective, and it’s part of why we do these conversations: to raise awareness and help people understand that no two disabilities or experiences are exactly alike.

Matt 27:23
 Exactly.

Taylor 28:06
 I think that’s also why communities are so valuable. What has building your support group been like for you personally?

Matt 35:20
 Honestly, I started the support group selfishly because I needed support myself.

I was diagnosed during COVID. I didn’t know anyone with MS, and most online groups felt overwhelmingly negative.

People would post things like, “This disease sucks. My life is over.” At the time, I couldn’t handle seeing that because I was already struggling with depression and fear about my future.

So I created a group centered around positivity. That doesn’t mean we ignore challenges. It just means we approach them differently.

Instead of, “My life is over,” it’s, “I’m struggling today. Has anyone else experienced this, and how did you handle it?”

And over time, I’ve become incredibly inspired by the people in the group.

I met my friend Colin there after he attempted to run across Ireland years ago. That friendship eventually led to this new Guinness World Record attempt together.

Before MS, I was a casual runner at best. I never wanted to run more than a half marathon.

But after diagnosis, running became symbolic. First, it was, “Can I run one mile?” Then, “Can I run a half marathon again?” Then a marathon, then ultramarathons, and eventually a 150-mile race.

Now we’re preparing for 350 miles across Ireland.

You just never know where life will take you.

Taylor 39:31
 That’s incredible, and I think it’s such a powerful reminder not to take our abilities for granted.

Matt 40:51
 Exactly. None of this is guaranteed for anyone.

Sure, MS increases the likelihood that I may lose abilities someday, but the truth is any of us could lose abilities unexpectedly.

So my message to people is: appreciate what your body can do today.

There are people who would love to have the abilities you currently have, and when we take them for granted, we often don’t realize how valuable they are until they’re gone or threatened.

Taylor 43:19
 That’s a beautiful point.

So, how does MS affect your day-to-day life currently?

Matt 43:59
 Usually I notice it right when I wake up. My legs don’t fully respond the way I want them to initially. It’s almost like my body only gives me about 80% of what my brain is asking for.

But I’ve grown accustomed to it.

Most workdays are relatively manageable because I work from home. Where I notice symptoms most consistently is during running.

Intense exercise can temporarily increase inflammation, which increases symptoms like blurry vision, numbness, tingling, and twitching.

At first, that terrified me. Now I know those symptoms are temporary and don’t necessarily mean new damage is occurring.

I also recognize that, compared to many people with MS, I’m very fortunate.

Some people with the same diagnosis experience much more severe progression than I do.

So my focus is on using the abilities I currently have for as long as I can.

Taylor 48:43
 To finish up, are there any major misconceptions about MS you’d like to address?

Matt 49:11
 One thing people may not realize is that somewhere between 50% and 60% of people with MS experience depression at some point.

That makes sense when you think about it. You’re diagnosed with a lifelong, progressive condition that currently has no cure.

Even people doing well with MS still live with uncertainty.

Every year, many people with MS undergo MRIs to see whether the disease has progressed. Even with treatment, there’s no guarantee things won’t worsen.

So people constantly wonder: “Is this symptom progression? Is my disease getting worse?”

Living with that uncertainty can be emotionally exhausting.

Taylor 51:56
 That makes a lot of sense, and I think it’s something that isn’t discussed enough across the disability community in general.

I really appreciate you talking openly about that and sharing your perspective.

I think that’s a great place to end it. Thank you so much for joining us and sharing your experiences.

Matt 52:36
 I really appreciate you having me on, Taylor. I truly enjoyed the discussion.

Taylor 52:42
 Wonderful. Thank you, everyone, for watching and listening, and we’ll see you all next time.

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